We constantly want to achieve new things to get happy. There is nothing wrong in it, per se. Achieving success does give happiness. Getting a new gadget make us go gaga. We constantly hanker after new possessions or a new achievement but we forget one thing. The real challenges of life remain as it is. A new job gives happiness but for a few days. Even the previous job was good enough. The new job becomes like previous job after few days and we then again want to switch to get happiness.
Achieving new things is a great thing and one must not shy of it. The point I want to discuss is whether we are doing anything for the real challenges. A new job definitely is not going to solve the problems of loneliness and isolation. It is not going to save one’s marriage. In most of the cases, there was never a real financial problem if one had a job before. A 25% raise is not going to solve the problem of living a meaningless life.
We shy of the real issues at hand because they are the real tough beasts. Getting a new gadget and a raise becomes a cover-up. At least, I am doing something, we think. Solving the real issues can provide lasting happiness and a feeling of worth and success. Later on, these victories help in career progression and a peaceful and serene life.
Life needs to be lived. Observing people daily begets a strange fact. Many people are not even living. May be they have lost that life in them due to constant struggles. Some of them haven’t lived at all from the onset. I am talking about awareness of being alive. Enough said, I do observe a sizeable portion of population alive and thriving. Yes, there are people who are relishing life even in one’s vicinity. The people who are depressed due to constant exigencies of life may not even be aware of them. Even when they come across these people, they assume other’s happiness to be only a facade. Most people have resigned in their quest for happiness.
One must start loving life. Also, one must be more aware. Awareness is a perfect starting point of real change. Everyone knows that he is a living being but is he also aware of it. Knowing and being aware are two different things. The founder of Transactional Analysis (TA), Eric Berne, considers “awareness” to be the real tool for change. All the religions teach us “awareness” if we try to delve into them. All the great philosophers and saints have talked about it. Buddha talked about it. So, did Mahavira. Old age adage “Know Thyself” is also a coercion in becoming more aware.
May we all try to be more aware of our thoughts, surroundings, our loved ones, people we deal with, our internal states, our proficiency and productivity. When awareness will seep into our life, we will find ourselves doing everything properly. We will be solving our problems with greater dexterity. And, when we start winning against our challenges, life becomes happy and blissful.